We shouldn't have waited - Communicate For The Sake Of Your Marriage

We shouldn't have waited - Communicate For The Sake Of Your Marriage

This has been one of those two-week periods when so much happens it sort of piles up like snowdrifts. The SubZero refrigerator in the kitchen developed a simple problem that escalated: The spring on the garage door broke and it added to other annoyances since the car is outside and Betsy III, the Harley, is inside with great riding weather upon us, but the door can't be easily opened, and Amy's pain suddenly became unbearable. These happenings in combination caused me to miss posting my weekly Blog, but they also provided true stories for four blogs and two Zingers. Reminds me of the old saying; The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away.

Amy's left hip became painful about seven years ago, four years ago the pain began to change our life, together. My sweetheart is as independent as I, so she gritted her teeth and hid the pain from everyone except me. The reasons were several; she had endured five serious surgeries previously, and didn't want to do it again; she did not want to spend the usual eight weeks to fully regain mobility and, I think, she did not want to admit she could not ignore the pain. The result was less happiness for both of us.

On this Friday she will under go a complete hip joint replacement, followed by two, possibly more, weeks of physical therapy to build up and rebalance her muscles. This is needed because the body makes adjustments to reduce the pain; in the way we walk, sit down, and even lay in bed. We are not aware of these adjustments, until they lead to pain in areas that normally would have nothing to do with the hip joint or leg. I know; I went through it before my hip joint was replaced, twenty years ago.

I failed to sell, cajole, and push her into getting her hip replaced four years ago. I failed to communicate with her and she failed to tell me just how much it was hurting. I share this with you in the hope that you will communicate clearly with your significant other; do it with out shame for both your sakes. Remember that when we stop communicating about one thing we gradually stop communicating other things, or we blow up about something that isn't important, just because of the pain. Then everything starts going to hell in a hand basket.

The same thing happens in business. That is what has made the other happenings I spoke of above, so very aggravating and why I will share the lack of communication and its business results, with you, in the weeks to come.

Thanks for letting me share with you.

Wesley (Wes) Zimmerman
The Perception of a Difference